I once read a novel by Anne Tyler. In it a man wrote how to books and he wanted to do one to help men deal with their spouse’s menopause. Everyone thought it was a stupid idea. I think it is a great idea!
I am in the throes of menopause (okay, okay it is actually peri-menopause but you know what I mean!) and it sucks. And while every woman has a different combination of symptoms and cures the vast majority suffer in one way or another. And everyone I know agrees, men do not help. They can’t begin to comprehend the frustration and helplessness women feel during this phase of life. Really it is just like being a teenager again with a lot of weight gain in bad places added in.
So this “made up holiday” is for men to educate themselves about menopause. Read a website or two. Google “husband doesn’t understand menopause“. Bring home or make dinner. Be sure to understand where in the cycle your woman is. Is this a salad and chocolate cake kind of day? Burgers and fries? Grilled fish and steamed veggies? Make sure you know because you don’t want to screw it up!
She may be ranting and raving about nothing but listen to it. You may glean a thing or two that you can do to help her out. Turn the a/c or heat up or down. Try extra hard not to wake her up, ever. (Sleep is such a big deal.) Do some little task that needs to be done and do it her way, just this once. Or maybe just give her some space.
Once the hormones settle down and she is officially in menopause she will remember all the little things you tried to do. And she will be grateful. Really.